At 31 weeks pregnant and as I become increasingly obsessive about what I want to get done before the birth it is a good time to reflect on just what it took to conceive. It took us just over 12 months to conceive the first time and it seems quite likely that it was a side effect of the HSG test that made the difference then. So I thought with the cobwebs blasted from the tubes and having already had a baby that we would have an easier time trying to conceive again. Boy was I wrong.
We decided to start trying again around the time of our son's 1st birthday. I was still breastfeeding and figured that could be decreasing our chances so after about 6 months without any luck I finished breastfeeding (May 13). In August I went to see a Doctor of chinese medicine who was recommended by my Chiropractor. A couple of friends that I mentioned it to, said that chinese medicine was what had worked for people they knew and so I was feeling positive. I was going twice a week for (laser) acupuncture and swallowing some serious cash in the form of chinese herbs. She was confident it would only take a couple of months to 'reset' things but after a few months I started to worry that there was scarring or some obstruction caused by the emergency (and particularly difficult) caesarian section.
We went back to our original OBGYN Dr Gronow and re-ran the tests that we had done 3 years earlier (progesterone, ultrasound, sperm test & HSG) which were all normal.
His advice... "come back when you want to start IVF".
In my mind I set that deadline as mid 2014 but my partner was against IVF so we looked for other options. I changed my yoga class to the restorative option as I felt I needed to be gentle with myself because work and trying to conceive were very stressful. Every month felt like a lifetime. I prescribed myself magnesium and vitex based on internet research such as this
blog post by Nat Kringoudis.
Dr Burmeister was recommended as a specialist who would try all the alternatives to avoid interventions. So we went along to see her and heard that once we had been trying for a year there was only a 4% chance of conceiving in any one month. She had some advice about getting the timing right and and explained that a laparoscopy & hysteroscopy would be required to see if there were any issues and do a routine 'clean out'. She ordered blood tests and we should see her again after getting the results. In the meantime we also sought the help of a local
Naturopath Candace Borg who specialises in fertility. After a lengthy and thorough consultation, she added to the list of blood tests we needed and started us on some liquid herbs which really tested my resolve.
I booked in for the day surgery (March 13) and remember waking up and feeling to see if there were any other incisions besides the one in my belly button which would mean she found something wrong and attempted to correct it. There wasn't another incision and as I found out soon after everything looked 'normal'. At my next appointment because I indicated we weren't willing to start IVF she suggested artificial insemination. When I pressed for some alternative recommendations I was told to read
her website (don't drink alcohol/soft drink & don't smoke). Only when I kept pressing did she suggest taking Vitamin E, CoEnzyme Q10 and Melatonin in combination for egg health as is prescribed to those on IVF. I started these in mid May and on the recommendation of the naturopath my partner started Vitamin D supplements although Dr Burmeister did not believe his low level to be a factor at all.
In June I learnt a technique called
Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE) which is for releasing long held traumas from the body and reducing stress. I practiced this twice a week and my partner did too. I also stopped lying in bed with the electric blanket on and actually unplugged it before getting into bed. We continued with the liquid herbs and supplements recommended by the Naturopath. We conceived in July 14. I wasn't ready to believe it at first and so delayed buying a test for days!
We won't ever know which one or more of these things made the difference but my recommendations to others in our position are:
- restorative yoga
- Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE)
- unplugging the electric blanket
- healthy Vitamin D levels for both
- advice from a Naturopath who specialises in fertility.
So much gratitude goes out to Candace, Richmond and my teachers at
Yogaville for their guidance and support.